Hector and the Search for Happiness

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Hector and the Search for Happiness

By Francois Lelord

Or, more aptly put, a 200-page long parable on how to find happiness in today's world,in the midst of rampant consumerism, globalization, etc.- told from the perspective of a western psychiatrist named Hector.

I am not one for self help books, which is not to say that I am not a fan of self examination from time to time. I quite enjoyed Lelord's examination of how to be happy. Although, at times it felt a bit trite. It follows a typical western notion that in order to fully obtain/understand something, one must look to foreigners and other ways of living as a way to mirror western ideals to reach clarity. I will prevent a colonial rant, as there are better things to be righteous about.

It was a nice reminder, and perhaps even a much needed one, that happiness is not the destination, but rather the journey. We've heard this before, eh? Because it's true!

Here are a few "Lessons" that Hector picks up on his search:

Lesson no 1: Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.

Lesson no 2: Happiness often comes when least expected.

Lesson no 3: Many people see happiness as only in their future

I find lesson no. 3 to be particularly important. At times, delayed gratification and imminent discomfort is sometimes necessary- I am thinking of school, work, etc. here- but there is a balance to be struck. I imagine that a lot us, myself included, find it pleasing, fun, and enticing to spend a lot of time imagining the future and how lovely it will be. You know, a "dream" future, with the perfect apartment in the best location in the city, healthy relationships, a fulfilling job, enough time to explore your hobbies... a future that always seems to feel like a bright, spring, Saturday morning. I've learned that it's important to know what you want, but that you must learn how to embrace those visions in your present, instead of trying to chase them down. Anyway, I am still working on how to fully embrace my "future happiness" in the now. I am getting there, but not enough to give any more advice!

There are many more lessons, than just these three. I am sure somewhere in all of Hector's 20+ lessons there is something to be gleaned for everyone. It's a nice little jaunt of a book, and perhaps a great parable to visit as we shed the bleak winter months.

Rating: *** of *****